Comments for jiejieandmeimeiandtj http://jiejieandmeimeiandtj.com To China and back, three times, to build a family. Sun, 20 Jan 2013 18:54:43 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ Comment on Two Amazing Years, and a Day by Regina Brisgone http://jiejieandmeimeiandtj.com/2012/12/07/two-amazing-years-and-a-day/#comment-186 Sun, 20 Jan 2013 18:54:43 +0000 http://jiejieandmeimeiandtj.com/?p=1033#comment-186 Love this. It is quite beautiful. We are just now revisiting some of Sylvie’s early issues now that she is in 3rd grade, has a really mean reading/writing teacher which are triggering early insecurities issues and frustrations. I can talk with you about a number of the issues you mentioned. One thing about being an FCC Prez (yes I am doing that and teaching at college– call me crazy!) is that I’ve been to lots of forums on Chinese adoption issues and have read lots of books. Maybe I’ve read one that you haven’t. Plus I have a kid who is teaching me as we go along. I have just learned that my confident, crazy, singing and twirling in school girl is a) a perfectionist and b) very competitive!) So, when she refused to walk into the gymnastics gym the answer is: Sylvie: “I messed up last time and can’t face the teacher!” Me: “HUH? You’re doing back handsprings, and the teacher is trying to make you arch back further. He’s not trying to scare you or be mean to you.” Sylvie: “I can’t do back handsprings. I stink!” Ahhh. Her school guidance counselor asked me to talk to her about being perfect and being competitive. I asked: “How do you feel when someone does a handspring better than you?” Sylvie: “I get really MAD and jealous!” We’ve always counseled her that the “green-eyed monster” was something to avoid. I guess jealousy and competitiveness in her mind was a no-no so she’s bottled up her competitive nature. I told her very gently (with Steve adding examples) that it is OK to be competitive, to want to do better than the next guy, but that we DO NOT do anything to hurt that other person — not words or actions or fighting. It’s ok to be jealous, but we don’t hurt anybody, right? It’s take 2 months of struggle to get her to walk back into the gym. She’s baaaak and now mom and dad know a lot more about their mystery girl.

It may be that TJ has such high standards for himself that he gets really upset at facing any obstacles. We have been told to lay off the expectations and to ignore the things that make her “go there.”

Answer to encopresis (if it’s what I think it is) is fiber, fiber, fiber in the form of: Benefiber tablets every day. Purple is the best!!! Really do not need to find out “what” caused it. Just make as light about it as possible (if that’s possible) esp. since I’ve diagnosed a perfectionist and a tough on himself type of kid. Geeze those Guangdong “Cantonese” are strong willed!!! Eat “pilly” twice a day, especially purple ones will make this go away!! Less is more.

Give me a call!!! ginab

]]> Comment on A Long Day’s Journey Into a Holiday by LaHigbie http://jiejieandmeimeiandtj.com/2012/11/21/a-long-days-journey-into-a-holiday/#comment-177 Tue, 27 Nov 2012 02:27:34 +0000 http://jiejieandmeimeiandtj.com/?p=1023#comment-177 Still waiting for Jie Jie anecdote.

]]> Comment on From Mac and Cheese to Manatees by Yuanfang Liu http://jiejieandmeimeiandtj.com/2012/09/12/from-mac-and-cheese-to-manatees/#comment-174 Mon, 29 Oct 2012 13:43:26 +0000 http://jiejieandmeimeiandtj.com/?p=996#comment-174 lol, TJ is fun!

]]> Comment on Meimei, American Idol by Yuanfang Liu http://jiejieandmeimeiandtj.com/2012/08/19/meimei-american-idol/#comment-173 Mon, 29 Oct 2012 13:39:00 +0000 http://jiejieandmeimeiandtj.com/?p=718#comment-173 This is tooo cute! :)

]]> Comment on From Mac and Cheese to Manatees by Christine Adams Beckett http://jiejieandmeimeiandtj.com/2012/09/12/from-mac-and-cheese-to-manatees/#comment-172 Thu, 13 Sep 2012 21:59:24 +0000 http://jiejieandmeimeiandtj.com/?p=996#comment-172 Beautiful…

]]> Comment on MeiMei Mellows Out by Judy Putnam http://jiejieandmeimeiandtj.com/2012/06/27/meimei-mellows-out/#comment-148 Wed, 11 Jul 2012 02:44:07 +0000 http://jiejieandmeimeiandtj.com/?p=887#comment-148 I never liked that song, Ring Around the Rosy, either.

]]> Comment on Around the House: A List by Christine Adams Beckett http://jiejieandmeimeiandtj.com/2012/06/24/around-the-house-a-list/#comment-139 Sun, 24 Jun 2012 11:19:04 +0000 http://jiejieandmeimeiandtj.com/?p=821#comment-139 I could use one of those latex gloves. Just sayin’.

]]> Comment on Insomnimom by Christine Adams Beckett http://jiejieandmeimeiandtj.com/2012/06/19/insomnimom/#comment-138 Tue, 19 Jun 2012 10:20:05 +0000 http://jiejieandmeimeiandtj.com/?p=806#comment-138 Beautiful.

]]> Comment on TJ, Max by Regina E. Brisgone http://jiejieandmeimeiandtj.com/2012/05/16/tj-max/#comment-133 Wed, 16 May 2012 13:48:18 +0000 http://jiejieandmeimeiandtj.com/?p=709#comment-133 What a great story, Helen. All of it is so funny I wanted more!!!! Esp. Meimei’s comment at the end. The girls, especially Davi, seem very funny in a self-suffering sort of way when it comes to TJ. They complain, and then accept. We really want to see you and hope to get up there soon, unless you’re coming this way in the summer!

]]> Comment on More Headlines From the Homefront by Judy Putnam http://jiejieandmeimeiandtj.com/2012/04/01/more-headlines-from-the-homefront-9-2/#comment-127 Sun, 01 Apr 2012 12:17:02 +0000 http://jiejieandmeimeiandtj.com/2012/04/01/more-headlines-from-the-homefront-9/#comment-127 Haha. What a great update. There’s no way you are mean at all

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